Stages of Living Overseas

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Denial and Isolation, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance…the stages of grief first proposed by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in her 1969 book “On Death and Dying.” Stages people go through, not always in order, not always all of them. Similiarly, there are stages to living overseas and again when repatriating. Different for everyone in duration, in order, in completion, but similar in character. A friend of ours described the stages of moving overseas as follows: the Honeymoon Stage, The Homesickness/Complaining Stage, The Coping Stage, The Acceptance Stage.

The Honeymoon Stage
You arrive. All is exciting, all is new. You are living out your dreams. You overlook the blemishes, the warts, the acne of the place. You notice the exotic beauty, the intoxicating smells, the lilt of foreign languages hitting your ears. You are drunk with the newness of it all, so different from what you are used to. Everything is a amplified…the skyscrapers so tall, the temples so ornate, the thunder so loud. You want the scream, “This is so cool, so sexy, so everything I thought it would be and more!” It is like a new relationship…you don’t notice the morning breath, no action is annoying, you are head-over-heels in love. Why didn’t I do this sooner? What was I afraid of? The world is my oyster and I’m ready to dine!!!

The Homesickness/Complaining Stage
One day you wake up and you want a bowl of Frosted Flakes. But you don’t have any. In fact, you can’t find them anywhere. No f-ing Frosted Flakes anywhere!!! And you want Frosted Flakes. They always had them at home.
You need a pair of scissors, a nice pair of scissors. You go to the pharmacy store. No scissors. You go to the hardware store. No scissors. You go to every store in the huge mall. No scissors. For God’s sake, there must be a store in this city of millions where I can buy a damn pair of scissors! Feel the frustration? Feel the anger?

You are used to Starbucks opening early so can grab that cup of morning-wake-me-up before work. But every Starbucks is closed up tight at 5:00 am. No lights on at 6:00 am. Same at 7:00am. Doesn’t anyone need a coffee in the morning as bad as me?
You miss your friends and family, Starbucks in the morning, shopping at Nordstrom’s. You miss knowing where to find scissors or Frosted Flakes. You quickly discover FaceTime is not a substitute for a grandkid hug or mother’s apple pie. You notice the garbage in the street, you don’t understand how to pay your bills, you come down with diarrheah. You yearn for the familiar, for the routine, for the day-to-day living you have known all your life. If not careful, you can find yourself on the first plane returning to your home country, or depressed, or just plain angry. You blame your spouse, you curse, stamp your feet, you cry, you complain. It is not paradise. The oyster doesn’t taste that great.

Coping Stage
You find a Mexican restaurant that is so good you cannot believe it. A friend takes your hand and leads you to the craft store and a whole aisle of scissors. You learn if you look hard enough you can find anything in this crazy city. When you finally find the Frosted Flakes you purchase every box on hand for it may not be there next week or ever again in that store. You are introduced to Indonesian and Vietnamese coffee and Starbucks isn’t so important. You develop relationships with other expats and locals. You begin to feel comfortable driving and your “bubble of comfort” expands. You begin to cope with the homesickness and you visit that stage less and less. You begin to believe you can make it, it is possible, it is doable. You want to get out of bed and see what is in store for the day. Big breath, sigh of relief.

Acceptance Stage
You wake up early in the morning and walk to the kitchen without turning on a light…you know the way. The coffee is brewed without a thought. You nurse the cup sitting on the porch looking at the twinkling lights of the city. Routine.

You listen to local news and wonder whether the Prime Minister will step down from office. You made it to IKEA without using the GPS. You know what grocery store to go to for vegetables and fruit, which ones have the best meat, the best seafood. You begin to feel like this adopted home is yours, that you belong, that you are part of the fabric.

You have picked up on the nuances of the local culture. You begin to see things you never noticed before….the cute little house on your walk to the lake, frangipani blossoms, mangos hanging low on the branches. You discover Kewpie Salad Dressing. You can’t get that in the States. You must have Roti Canai for breakfast. You look forward to three day weekends to easily fly away to an exotic beach. Being the only Caucasian on the subway is no longer a novelty. What used to feel foreign in now commonplace. You belong. This is home. Acceptance.

Chiang Mai, Thailand

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Chiang Mai, nestled in the hill country in northern Thailand, is an ancient city of almost 800 years. At one time a great wall and moat surrounded and protected the city. Today only remnants of the wall and moat exist, but still intact are close to 300 Buddhist temples (Wats in Thai), the oldest dating back to 1296.

I visited about 25 of the temples. They are all works of art…most built from old teak and all hold a treasured Buddha. Many are working temples where monks live and learn and teach. People come from all over to worship and meditate.

You are on holy ground upon entering the temple. You leave your shoes at the entrance. You practice quiet and respect. You cover yourself…shorts at least down to the knees, bare shoulders not allowed. Refrain from public affection, from patting Buddha on the head, from pointing toward Buddha with your feet. (you may go to hell if you do the later…not right away, but eventually!!!!)

Here are some images of the temples of Chiang Mai

Wat Umong
My favorite Wat was one I had to work at to find. Wat Umong is unique in that there is no large temple, instead, below the Chedi is a series of tunnels holding the Buddha and places for prayer. It is north of town, down a labyrinth of roads, in the middle of a jungle. I rented a trusty little one speed bike and pedaled my way north…of course I had to stop several times to look at Wats along the way, but finally made it to CMU (Chiang Mai University). The map shows Wat Umong to the west down a road…no name given to the road, just a road. The trouble was, there were many roads leading west, tiny little one lane roads. We went past four or five and none of them had the right “feel”…the sixth road I came to was it, at least I hoped it was it. Off I pedaled, one kilometer, two kilometer…where is it? Should I turn around? And then, around the corner, tah dah, WAT UMONG. It is always rewarding to find a place on your own. I parked and locked up my bike and went exploring. This Wat is truly unique. Far enough away from town so there are very few tourists. It is in the middle of a jungle, birds singing, breeze rustling the leaves above….truly a spot of serenity and peace.

Pics of Wat Umong

EATING IN CHIANG MAI

The food is always delicious in Thailand. Mostly I ate at stalls…a full meal for only a few dollars. Bar-b-que pork, chicken and noodles, spring rolls, soooo good. But sometimes I go for a little more refinement. Two spots I found were worth noting.

Kalapela Japanese Tea House
One of our teachers, Yuka, is Japanese and she LOVES Chiang Mai. She told me about this place owned by a lovely Japanese man, TOMO, and his partner. Tomo is like the sweetest man in the world and takes such pride in his food. I would order and then he would send me “complimentary dishes” for me to try. When I shared how much I enjoyed the food he would beam with such pride. A must stop for food, tea and wine.

Din Dee Mudhouse Cafe
I found this place on the campus of CWU…made entirely out of mud, it serves vegetarian fare and amazing smoothies. Also owned by a Japanese woman, she promotes sustainable living and even has workshops on the building of a mud house. Full of college students studying and just chatting away like college students do, it is a spot full of energy.

Hotel
Yuka recommended Tamarind Village, a Lanna style boutique hotel right smack in the middle of the old town. Across the street was the bike rental spot and foot massages for 5 dollars (an hour). A lovely hotel, full amenities and so peaceful….except that rooster in the morning!!!!

I could easily live in Chiang Mai. Good food, good weather, affordable, and just down right beautiful. If you get the chance to come to Thailand, skip Bangkok and come straight to Chiang Mai….you won’t regret it.

Final pics from Chiang Mai…

The Killing Fields of Choeung Ek

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The 1970’s, not so long ago, was a dark period of history for the people of Cambodia. Between 1975 and 1979, over 3 million of the 8 million people living in Cambodia were killed…some starved to death, others worked to death, over 1.5 million murdered in the killing fields. I’m not sure what the draw was to see this site of horrific suffering, pain and death, but I needed to experience it, to believe it happened, to maybe gain some sense of it.

Please know that this blog may be hard to read, some parts graphic. I will not be offended if you choose to skip this one. It will not be filled with pretty sights, beaches and palm trees, five star hotels, or palaces. It is dark, and I am not ashamed to say that tears rolled down my cheeks as I wrote this piece.

A little background….
On April 17, 1975, the Khmer Rouge marched into Phnom Penh. The arrival of the communist troops, mostly young and dour peasant boys hardened by years of guerrilla war, marked the end of a traumatic civil war. At first the residents of the city cheered and celebrated the arrival of the troops, but within three days every man, woman and child of the city were forced out of their homes and marched into the countryside during some of the hottest days of the year, to be placed on agricultural cooperatives. Hospitals shut down, businesses all closed, schools boarded up…the capital city became a ghost town, and it commenced the beginning of a nearly four-year long nightmare of ultra-Maoist rule.

S-21
On a dusty road on the outskirts of Phnom Phen sat Tuol Svay Pray High School. A building once bustling with young minds gaining an education. You can still hear their laughter, their hopes and dreams of a better life. A high school like anywhere else in the world, filled with those goofy young adults. But in 1975 the Khmer Rouge confiscated the school, renamed it S-21 (Tuol Sleng Prison) and turned it into a torture, interrogation and execution center. Of the 14,000 who entered this prison, only 7 survived.

Here is where innocent people were brought and tortured into confessions, confessions that held a death sentence. Like in Nazi Germany, each prisoner was carefully photographed and documented. Room after room at this school now holds pictures of the victims…hundreds of them, thousands of them. There are too many to comprehend. You choose one and look into their eyes….you crawl into their head and feel the pain, the fear, the resignation that death awaits you very soon. It is difficult to hold the gaze, and you choose another to visit with. You bow your head and suffer with them. You question the human race, how could this happen? These are modern times, a short 40 years ago. You are ashamed. You are impotent to help. You cannot change what happened.

Women, innocent women, some with scars of beatings, all with haunting looks.
Children, hundreds of them, awaiting the same fate as their parents.

Men, women and children…all treated the same. Shackled to beds, crammed into cells, treated in the most inhumane manner possible. You can still see the blood stains on the floor, no amount of bleach can erase. The poles are still there where prisoners were lifted up off the ground by their hands tied behind their backs. The big pots still stand, once filled with putrid water where they lowered people head first until they drowned or confessed. The clamps are visible where arms were immobilized while fingers were cut off. And you look at the faces of the people again and you cry.

Survivor

As I left S-21, I met a gentle, soft spoken man, Chum Mey. He was one of seven people who survived the camp. He survived because the Khmer Rouge found he could fix typewriters…they needed him so they could continue to type up the confessions. He is 84 years old now and makes his living selling his memoirs. I spoke to him for a bit, through an interpreter. He somehow has found a sense of peace with his life and all that happened to him. Tears still flow when he remembers. He was one of the lucky ones. We hugged and he helped me heal a bit.

Choeung Ek Killing Fields

Choeung Ek was but one of over 300 killing centers. The prisoners at S-21, after confessions were gained, were brought here to die. Each evening, prisoners at S-21 were handcuffed, blindfolded and herded into trucks…told they were being moved to another location. Instead they were brought to Choeung Ek, formerly a fruit orchard. The prisoners were led blindfolded, tethered to the person in front of them by a rope around their neck, to pits freshly dug that day. One at a time they were brought to the pit and made to kneel a meter away from the edge. Bullets were too valuable to use, so instead simple farm instruments…hammers, picks, shovels, cart axles, etc. were used to crush skulls or break necks. The bodies were shoved into the pits, handcuffs removed…and one by one the hole filled with the dead and dying. When all met their fate, they were covered with DDT to kill anyone still alive and to keep the smell down. By morning the pits were covered with dirt and new ones dug.

Over 20,000 people met their fate here at Choeung Ek. It is a somber place, a place of compassion, of memory. Bracelets are left here. Not sure who started this act, but on the bamboo barriers, on trees, on signs…bracelets have been left. To say what? Does it speak to the dead that we give a bit of ourselves, in solidarity. Is that friendship bracelet saying, “You could have been my friend.” Perhaps it is just to say, “You are in my thoughts…I will remember you…I will work to make sure this doesn’t happen again.”


Over 8,895 bodies have been unearthed at Choeung Ek. The bones and skulls lovingly cleaned and now lie in a large glass Buddhist stupa. The skulls look out over the fields and keep watch. They cry out to you, “Why?” It is a tribute to those who lost their lives and a grim reminder of what happened here, here in the killing fields.

Evening falls and I am back in Phnom Penh, sitting in a bar watching life go by. I hear laughter, people walking hand-in-hand, dancing to be had, food to be enjoyed. I drink a toast to those lives lost. I drink a toast to smarter, more compassionate days ahead. Cambodia has healed. I hope it never forgets.

Phnom Penh, Cambodia

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Phnom Penh, capital of Cambodia and home to around 2 million people. Unlike many other metropolises in South East Asia, Phnom Penh is a city of mostly low-rise buildings, just recently started building up. You can see the pride of the people as this city awakens after years of abuse and neglect. The streets are being worked on, tall buildings being erected, infrastructure being improved or installed. At the same time there seems to be an attempt to keep the past…the French influence, the Khmer architecture, the pagodas, palaces, etc. The waterfront (Mekong River) is alive and bustling with activity, restaurants, markets, bars, hotels. Phnom Phen has it’s eyes on the tourist dollar and is quickly sprucing up the town. It is a town finding its identity.

The streets are filled with motorcycles, bicycles, tuk-tuks, cars and trucks all vying for a clear route forward. When traffic comes to a standstill the scooters move over to the oncoming lanes to move forward. It is not uncommon to have vehicles going both ways on your side of the road…and don’t forget the sidewalks…as good a place as any to move forward!!! I will never stop marveling at the creative means of getting from point A to point B in most SE Asian cities!!!

The official currency in Cambodia, the Cambodian riel, trades at around 4,060 riel to one US dollar. But there’s a 90 percent level of dollarization in the country, so there is no need to exchange your dollars for riel. If you pull money out of an ATM, it comes to you in dollars. Should you pay with dollars and there is change coming back to you, that is when you’ll get some riel…no quarters, nickels, dimes or pennies.

One thing you see about town is a large number of amputees. When the Khmer Rouge controlled the country, they closed the country to outsiders by placing land mines along the borders of Vietnam, Thailand and Laos….millions of them. And of course they were never removed when the Khmer Rouge were forced from power. It is estimated that between 1979 and 2013 that 19,684 people have been killed and 44,630 injured. Today the mines continue to indiscriminately kill and maim…children, farmers, all innocent victims. They say there are still millions of these land mines waiting quietly for someone to step on them. Your heart aches seeing the results of this insanity.

Unfortunately you also see much trash, piles of trash. Along the roads, in ditches, everywhere. Environmentalism is not alive and well in the general populace. I am hopeful the tide will turn. It is not just Phnom Penh, but in most of the SE Asian cities I have visited (except Singapore and Hong Kong).

I traveled to Phnom Penh just to get away from KL for a bit, but also to visit the Killing Fields which deserves a post of its own. (to follow) During this short weekend I visited the National Palace, the Russian Market and the Sisowath Quay area.

The National Palace
The National Palace was built during the late 1800’s and early 1900’s. It is remarkably similar to the National Palace in Bangkok, Thailand, with many of the exact design features. The current King and his family call the Palace their home so certain areas were off-limits. Adjoining the Palace, separated by a walled walkway, is the Silver Pagoda, aka Wat Preah Keo Morokat, which means ‘The Temple of the Emerald Buddha’. It has received the common moniker ‘Silver Pagoda’ after the solid silver floor tiles that adorn the temple building. The entire Palace complex sits right off the banks of the Mekong River. At night it is all lit up and quite the sight. I visited on Sunday, the busiest day as many Cambodians from outside the city come to visit and pay their respects.

You are not allowed to take photographs of the insides of the buildings, I wish I could have snapped some inside the Silver Pagoda. First off, the floors are tiled in silver. The Emerald Buddha, only a foot or so tall, is purported to be made from emerald or baccarat crystal…gorgeous. In front of the Emerald Buddha is a life-size 90 kg golden standing Buddha encrusted with 2086 diamonds including a 25 caret diamond in the crown and a 20 caret diamond embedded in the chest. All along the walls is glass case after glass case of gold and silver bowls, goblets, statuettes, etc. I cannot even hope to guess the value of the objects in this room….priceless to be sure.

The Russian Market
If you want to get a souvenir, a shirt, a knock-off brand-name purse, cigarettes, fish, handicrafts, meat, curios, well, just about anything, you come to the Russian Market. It got it’s name because during the 1980’s a large number of expats, predominately Russians, shopped in the area. The place is a MAZE with extremely narrow aisles snaking between booth after booth all under a low verigated tin roof. It is a sweltering, hot box of a market…but if you can stand the heat and you barter hard, you can escape with some pretty good deals.

Night Market and Sisowath Quay
On Saturday night I went looking for some local food and a walk about Sisowath Quay. Sisowath Quay is the main road boarding the river. It is one of the “happening’ spots in Phnom Penh…..nighclubs, bars, wide areas for walking and enjoying the evening. I purchased an amazing dinner from one of the stands….noodles and chicken, deep fried prawns, fresh spring rolls and deep fried spring rolls…..all for $2.00….washed it down with a $1.00 bottle of Angkor Beer. You can live pretty cheap in Cambodia. I found a nice bar on a second floor and just wiled away an hour or so just watching the crowds below. Grabbed a $7.00 hour-long foot massage and made it back to my room quite contented.

My Hotel….THE WHITE MANSION

I stayed at The White Mansion Hotel. Formerly, this building was the US Embassy. It has lovingly been converted onto this amazing 30 room hotel. When you enter the lobby there are beautiful curved stairways leading to the rooms above. You can picture heads of states and ambassadors meeting here during the embassy days, regal gatherings, formal parties all taking place on the shiny wooden floors. My room had 15 foot tall ceilings with fancy trim work. Like any nice hotel the room came with slippers, robes, free (albeit slow) wi-fi, free pop and water, etc. The bed was Asian hard but nice and there was a great little lap pool. And the service was amazing….friendly, helpful, waiting to see if you needed anything. Very nice indeed.

I think Phnom Pehn is a city on the rise. The Cambodian people have endured a lot of heartache in their past…nice to see good things happening.

Melbourne, Australia

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This has been Kuala Lumpur for the past two months (that is right, two months!!!!) The picture at the bottom is a typical day in Kuala Lumpur. The photo at top is life for us right now.

In nearby Indonesia, on the huge islands of Sumatra and Borneo, palm grove companies are constantly looking to increase their acreage. The cheapest way to do this is to burn the jungle during the dry season. Of course it is illegal but it hasn’t stopped them. Year after year this activity goes on. I’m pretty sure there is some big money changing hands to allow this to continue. This year, an El Nino year, the land is particularly dry and the fires are out of control. The jungle floor is peat base and it just smolders. The smoke is suffocating and deadly.

See this video: Deadly Indonesian Haze

We have closed school three times already and have set up virtual learning for our students. Countless days we have no outdoor activity as the air is too thick with smoke. We are lucky to have a school that is air conditioned for the most part we are able to keep the smoke out of the rooms. The local schools and the majority of residents are not so fortunate. Most people here are living with the lung choking haze 24-7. Experts expect the conditions to last until January…some predict until March. It is criminal.

The second week of October during our Fall Break, I jetted home….home to my loving wife and the fresh air of Washington state. I definitely consider myself fortunate.
It was so good to be home. I actually got to sleep in our new home for the first time and explore Chelan with Heidi. My lungs cleared up. My eyes became white again. Never take for granted the lovely air in North Central Washington!!!!

As they say, “All good things must come to an end”….my time at home came to a close and back on a plane I did go….not to Kuala Lumpur, but to Melbourne, Australia. Going to a Visible Learning Workshop with my Early Years teachers. (yes, we have nice PD opportunities)

For the last three years, Melbourne, Australia, has been voted the MOST LIVEABLE CITY in the world. Exploring the city the past 4 days, I found out why.

First…amazing food!!!! Every dinner we had was sumptuous. Everywhere were great little restaurants and cafes. Good wines, great coffee. And almost every cafe had outdoor dining. Along the river is an expansive esplanade….grab a seat, order some tapas and beverage and watch the world walk by.

Safe…for a city of almost 4 million, Melbourne has a very low crime rate. There is low-keyed but constant police presence. Never did I feel unsafe or threatened. There was a total lack of drifters and homeless individuals. People followed the rules of the road.

Transportation…a plethora of taxis, free street cars throughout the downtown area, steady schedule of trains to the suburbs, an international airport only 30 minutes away. And BIKE TRAILS everywhere!!!! And people respected bicyclists!!!! And there were as many bikes as cars.

Clean…funny that I didn’t see anyone picking up trash, but there wasn’t any trash…anywhere….alleys were even clean. I’m not sure if the cleaning crews come out at night, or if there are litter fairies…perhaps the people of Melbourne just don’t drop their trash…whatever the reason, Melbourne is Singapore clean.

Weather….they say in Melbourne you can have four seasons in one day. During my stay we had a beautiful sunny day, an overcast warm day, and two chilly rainy days, one with wind. But overall the weather is conducive to an outdoor lifestyle.

Arts…there is a vibrant art and music community….galleries, concerts, museums, even alleyways are decorated with amazing graffiti.

Outdoor activities…..biking paths galore, huge parks and green spaces, rowing clubs, sailing, paddling, cricket, horse racing, rugby, tennis (Rod Laver stadium his here) swimming, walking paths, you name it and it is happening in Melbourne.

I have a few cities that I just love…San Francisco, Hong Kong, Paris…and now add to that, Melbourne, Australia. If Donald Trump is elected president, I saw a nice house for sale in Melbourne that has my name on it!!!

Melbourne Skyline and Buildings

Melbourne Misc.

Cameron Highlands

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Food poisoning last week drained me of all my energy. I lost 9 pounds in the process and wore a path in the hardwood floor between my bed and the bathroom. No fun!!!! I needed a break. I needed some time to re-coup and just relax. So Friday I drove the three hours up to the Cameron Highlands.

The Cameron Highlands were “discovered” in 1885 by William Cameron, a British colonial government surveyor. He and his crew were mapping the Titiwangsa Range, using elephants for transport. Upon reaching the top one of the taller peaks, he spied a large plateau area. Later this plateau was named in his honor. Around 1925 the plateau was developed as a “hill resort” and soon became a popular holiday location for the British who tired of the heat and humidity in Kuala Lumpur.

Today it is one of the main growing regions in Malaysia. The cooler temperatures (41 to 75 degrees) plus the year-round tropical sunlight is perfect for growing vegetables, strawberries, and legumes, supplying much of Malaysia and Singapore with fresh produce. It is also home to large tea plantations, BOH the most famous. But mainly it is a major tourist and vacation destination drawing thousands of visitors on any given weekend.

Getting there was a challenge. The first 200 kilometers were on the big, modern North-South Expressway, but when I reached Tapah, I turned off onto the “old road” up to the Highlands and the town of Tanah Rata. The old road is about 60 kilometers long but it takes over an hour and a half to navigate. If you have ever driven the Road to Hana on the island of Maui you can begin to picture the road to the Highlands. In the 83 kilometers to Hana, you have to navigate 620 curves…that’s an average of 7.46 curves per kilometer. The 60 kilometers to the Highlands present the driver with 519 curves, an average of 8.65 curves per kilometer. (I’m not telling how I know the number of curves) Besides the curves it’s all uphill and there are NO turnouts, NO passing zones and very few guardrails. If you get behind one of the tour buses or large lorries, you are stuck. You have to be prepared for falling debris and minor landslides and washouts, and stray dogs. I’m just thankful I drove during daylight hours…this would be a nightmare in the dark.

I stayed at the Cameron Highlands Resort, a YTL resort. You can be assured that I was totally pampered and cared for. I indulged in a three hour spa village “treatment” including a soaking in a hot tub of tea and mint, a body scrub and a most luxurious massage.(about $90.00 USD for the three hour treatment) I qualified for the “resident package” so food was included…breakfast, lunch, dinner and high tea. I gained back all the weight I lost…and then some!!!! Amazing hotel.

Saturday morning I drove further north through the town of Brinchang. Brinchang is like a poor-man’s Leavenworth. Instead of Bavaria, the theme is Old English, but not everyone has signed on and those that have slap a little gingerbread here and there and call it quits. Pretty funny.

BOH Tea Plantation is a must-visit place when you are in Cameron Highlands. The BOH Tea Plantation has a total of 8000 acres planted with tea making it the largest tea plantation in Southeast Asia. The road is narrow and winding with many a sharp curve where you need to give a honk or two when negotiating the corners to let oncoming traffic know there is a car coming. The road is wide enough for cars to pass only if one pulls off to the side. Put narrow road aside,the view of green rolling hills, with the neat regular rows of tea plants, is truly breathtaking and refreshing! Every hue of green is captured on the hills. Truly beautiful!!!

The Highlands is also known for STRAWBERRIES…all grown in green houses, carefully maintained, watered and fertilized. Everywhere you see strawberry stands, strawberry pillows, strawberry balloons, strawberry shortcake, strawberry jam and of course, fresh strawberries.

I returned to KL rested, a few pounds heavier, and ready for the week ahead.

Odds and Ends

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KOREAN ICE CREAM
So, heading up the escalator on my way to the health club, I spy a strange looking food stand. Hanging above the stand were all these curly-cue pipe-like objects and on the floor a rather obscene, phallic looking decoration. And surprisingly enough, a long line of people queued up to make a purchase. I vowed to investigate after my workout.

An hour and a half later, I make my way back down to find it is a Korean Ice Cream stand…Jipangi. Instead of a conical cone like I’m used to, Jipangi uses a hollow, j-shaped “pipe-cone” made out of corn. The ice cream is then pumped all the way through the cone and a small rosette is left at each end. You select between vanilla or chocolate, combo of the two, or the “flavor of the week”. (today it was strawberry but they had run out)

I selected a “junior” size vanilla. A little hesitant at first, I cautiously licked the ice cream….smooth, rich and delicious!!!! The “cone” tastes a lot like Captain Crunch cereal. Because the cone is hollow and the ice cream is pumped all the way through, you never run out of the ice cream…it is there for every bite. So imagine ice cream with Captain Crunch…GENIUS !!!!

I am addicted. As long as I work out really hard, sweat a lot, and “think” I lost 5 pounds or more, I don’t feel guilty splurging now and then.

FLEXIBLE FURNITURE
I am so lucky to be at a well resourced school. In our planning for our new school we are experimenting with different types of flexible furniture…try them out to see what works, what doesn’t, what impact does it have on instruction. We have standing desks, sit-on-the-floor desks, desks with white board surfaces, etc., etc. Most of the furniture is so moveable you can transform the room in a quick minute from tables groups of four to a large square or circle for discussion, push them to the wall to open up the room to allow movement…furniture is light and moveable, easy to control the educational setting. Take a look at some of this…kids LOVE it!!!

As this is my last year here in Malaysia, I thought I would add a section at the end of each post….WHAT I WILL MISS

For my first WHAT I WILL MISS….Driving. If you read our earlier posts you will probably remember how timid I was at first to get behind the wheel. Quite honestly, how frightened I was. And nothing made sense…the signs, the exits, the stop lights…nothing was the way it was “suppose” to be. But that ended long ago….I absolutely love driving on these crazy roads with all these crazy drivers doing crazy things. Have you ever been at a red light and no one is coming and you wait, because it is a red light? You are law abiding and responsible. Not here…you get to go. I’m sure it is against the law but if you don’t go, everyone will go around you. I feel like such a rebel !!!!

Merging is an art form. I use to wait patiently to merge into a lane and it would take me forever waiting for an opening. And when I would see one, the space would immediately evaporate as the car behind sensed I wanted in. Well the trick is to just stick the nose of your car into the crease between two bumpers. Presto…your aggression is rewarded and you are afforded a spot in the lane. There doesn’t seem to be a bit of road rage in this country.

If the three lane highway is chock a block full, no problem, you start a fourth lane on the shoulder. One way streets are usually one way, unless of course you need to go the other way to get to your destination. If holiday food stands pop up along the highway, don’t exit, just stop in the left hand lane, purchase your food, chat for a bit…the other cars will adjust and go around. No hard feelings for they might want to do the same thing down the road at their favorite stand.

I laugh and laugh when I drive here. There is always something funny that happens. Unfortunately, there are a lot of accidents in this country and one of the highest percentages of motorcycle deaths. So I will remain cautious, occasionally run a red light, and live the rebel life for a few more months!!!

Year Three….On My Own

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This is my third and final year in Malaysia. Heidi has returned home to be closer to family and is now the Elementary Principal in Chelan, Washington. We are calling her Principal Busk, 2.0…a new and improved model over Principal Busk, 1.0 (me).

For both of us, this will be a most trying year. We are not used to being apart and it has proven to be a lot harder than we thought (at least harder than I thought…Heidi knew all along) We have Facetime and SKYPE, messaging and e-mail. I have an International Calling Plan so I can call home without the horrific charges. We have Magic Jack where we can call for free. I will be coming home in October and December and Heidi is set to come here in April…but some long stretches in between. But when we start feeling sorry for ourselves, we think of all the service men and women who are away for much longer stretches and often placed in harms way. In comparison, our separation is a walk in the park.

I debated long and hard whether or not to continue the blog, but have decided to continue on. I love documenting our (my) time here and it is just fun to write….. So….here goes.

VISITOR
The first visitor in year three was Kelly Kurz. Kelly was backpacking through SE Asia before heading home to the USA and then back to Africa. As usual, it was fun to show someone around, but Kelly was pretty independent and a seasoned traveler and didn’t need much guidance. The Kuala Lumpur Grand Prix was in town…cars racing through the streets of Kuala Lumpur..Ear plug noisy they careened through the streets at break-neck speeds with stick-like-glue cornering…amazing driving!!! Fun to watch!!!

EATING LOCAL
Went to eat breakfast at a local Dim Sum spot. Dim Sum is a style of Cantonese cuisine prepared as small bite-sized portions of food. A bunch of us from school went to this out of the way spot….wall to wall with local Chinese Malays all hungering for the famous Dim Sum. The servers come to your table with these huge platters of food…each platter different from the one before. You take your chopsticks and grab what you want. I didn’t know what I was ordering..that was part of the fun. I had some pork, some octopus, some vegetable, and the rest I just ate blind. Some delicious, some hard to swallow. It was an experience!!!

BACK TO HOI AN
I had a three day weekend so I zipped up to Vietnam and the historic town of Hoi An. This is by far my favorite city and Vietnam is my favorite country. Had to pick up some more lanterns and a few odds and ends. Mainly went to just veg on the beach, a chance to get away from Kuala Lumpur. Road a bike out to An Bang Beach…almost empty. The water crystal clear and warm, the sand soft. An Bang is at the southern end of what was known as China Beach during the war. You could close your eyes and picture the beach swarming with GIs relaxing during a short R&R, a chance to escape from the horrors of war.
Got to watch two fishermen. They used this funny little round coracle to let out about a quarter mile of net. The coracle looks like a ball cut in half. The fisherman used only one oar and feathered it one way or the other to move the coracle through the water. The other fisherman stood on shore with the other end of the net. When all the net was let out, the coracle came to shore a little ways up the beach making a huge arch. Then both fishermen started pulling in the net, making the arch smaller and smaller. Once most of the net was pulled in, both fishermen walked in the area where the fish were trapped and caught the fish by hand. The strangest thing. I thought they would have just pulled the net up on shore and then harvested the fish, but no, they caught them by hand. The whole process took about an hour and a half and they pulled out about 40 fish. They told me their family will have fresh fish for awhile.

Assorted pictures of Hoi An

In a couple of weeks I’m heading up to Cameron Highlands…about a four hour drive and home to large tea plantations and strawberry farms. In October I’ll be going “Down Under” to Melbourne, Australia and December I’m heading to Chiang Mai, Thailand. Not quite the same without Heidi, but someone has to do it!!!

BITTERSWEET BALI

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Bittersweet Bali

Sweet…because it is Bali. Because we are celebrating Heidi’s principalship. Because we have upped the ante in luxury. Because we have four days of just being together.

Bitter…because it will be the last trip we take together here in SE Asia. Together we have gone all over Malaysia, to Cambodia, Thailand, Indonesia, Borneo, Singapore, Vietnam… and next year Heidi will not return. We will be half a world apart. So we will savor this time together.

We stayed at Jamahal Private Resort and Spa. Jamahal used to be a private residence. The owner built it so his extended family and friends could come and visit and have their own place and privacy. With a few modifications, it has now become a luxury resort with 13 rooms.

From the minute we were picked up at the airport, we felt like we jumped into the “life of the rich and famous”. While neither rich nor famous, we were made to feel like it. In the van we were given chilled, jasmine scented washrags to wipe our faces and cool off. Chilled ice water quenched our thirst. A quick 15 minute drive and we entered the gates of Jamahal. Immediately we were met by three attendants to carry our luggage and welcome us by name. Once seated at the reception area, we were given two flutes of champagne and met Dhita. Dhita has this over-the-top personality that keeps you laughing and interested at the same time. She showed us around the place and then brought us to our room.

We entered through a carved wooden door set into a tall wall. Once inside you hear the waterfall feature to your right. The path forward led through our garden, under a tall frangipani tree, skirted our pool, onto our deck and then to our “room”. Our “room” turned out to be ginormous. A large living room with flat screen tv, entertainment system/sound system, refrigerator, fresh bowl of fruit and massive couch. To either side were bedrooms and bathrooms. To the right was the extra room and instead of a bed there were two massage tables set up. A full bathroom with tub, rain shower, double sinks, etc. To the left was our bedroom with a canopy bed and similar bath set-up, but our massive stone tub was filled with warm scented water with bougainvillea petals and frangipani blossoms floating on top. We think we will be happy here!!!

It rained every day we were here, but the purpose wasn’t sight-seeing, it was to spend time together. Each night before we retired, we ordered our breakfast for the morning. And right at the requested time our doorbell rang. We pushed the entry button and in came our “butler” with breakfast and the morning Jakarta Post. We sat on our porch, protected from the rain, drank freshly brewed Indonesian coffee and fresh-squeezed orange juice. We always had a bread basket, usually eggs with bacon, yogurt and fresh fruit. About 45 minutes later, back comes the butler to pick up our plates and take them away. We did the same for lunch. We think we could get lazy and fat real fast here!!!!

We LOVED our stay at Jamahal. We were able to unwind, relax and just enjoy each other’s company. We were quite content just lazing away the days.

DINNER

We actually did pull ourselves away from our villa for dinner. Friday night we crossed the street (quite a feat….the streets in Bali are narrow and you would think you could just scoot across no problem, but there is a steady stream of cars and scooters making crossing a most difficult task) But each time we wanted to cross, out popped one of the Jamahal security guards, whistle in mouth and red flag in hand. Right into the traffic he would venture, whistle a-blowing. It was like the Red Sea parting, and across the street we went. The Indian Ocean and the beach is down a side road, perhaps a quarter of a mile. Jamahal has a beach club there but we wanted to sit and have a drink at one of the nice bars bordering the beach. Of course we had to dip our toes into the ocean and then walked down the beach to the InterContinental Hotel. We had a few drinks as we watched the sun set and then made our way in the dark to Cuca’s Restaurant.

Cuca’s is quite famous in Bali. The chef, Kevin Cherkas, cut his teeth at El Burri Restaurant on the coast in northern Spain. This restaurant has over 1 million reservation requests each year, but only 8,000 lucky ones get a table. Following El Burri, Kevin was head chef at the Shangri La Hotel in Kuala Lumpur, until he and his lovely wife Virginia opened Cuca in Bali. Sourcing only local ingredients and experimenting with molecular gastronomy, Cuca is a place where you want to pick your plate up after each course and lick it until you are sure you have consumed every last morsel and drop. It has “to die for” food. One of our teachers at school is a food reviewer and unbeknownst to us, she contacted Kevin and Virginia ahead of time and told them we were coming. When we entered the restaurant, they knew us immediately and brought us to our special table. Covered with rose petals and several long stemmed roses, we were seated in full view of the professional kitchen. Virginia came by to personally welcome us. We had the “rich and famous” feeling again and at the same time felt we were judges on The Top Chef. For soon our plates arrived. We each ordered three dishes and they came out one at a time. I cannot describe the taste but we have never had such delicious, mind blowing flavors in our lives. We were so full at the end of our meal we did not have room for desert, so we came back on Sunday. On Sunday we were seated at a long bar like table overlooking the kitchen. Each plate was brought to us by the chef and he explained how everything was made. We watched in awe as the crew of 11 chefs whipped up dish after dish. This time we saved room for three desserts. Heavenly desserts. I don’t know if we will ever taste anything better in our lifetime.

Dinner at di Mare

Saturday night we took a taxi to di Mare, a restaurant high upon a cliff with probably the best sunset views on the entire island. Unfortunately for us it was raining….but we had the restaurant to ourselves, enjoyed good food, and of course, the company. We enjoyed watching the waves crashing upon the beach below.

Massages

Of course we had to treat ourselves to massages….once in our villa and then once in the spa. The girls knew what they were doing…we felt so relaxed. The one in the spa was a two hour hot stone massage….so fine!!!!

As they say, all good things must come to an end and so did our stay on Bali. But we have memories that will stay with us for the rest of our lives and time spent together….priceless.

Vietnam – Hoi An

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The train dropped us off in Da Nang.

During the 60’s, Da Nang was used as a major US airbase. The airport at that time was one of the busiest in the world. Today the Da Nang International Airport sits on the site of the old military airstrip. Some of the old reinforced concrete quanset hut hangers are still being used to house fighter jets. Da Nang has grown up a lot since the sixties and is quite modern with new glass and steel high rises. A river runs through town and six different bridges have been built over the water including one that looks like a dragon. At night this bridge changes color and each Saturday at 8:30 PM crowds come to watch the “Dragon” blow smoke, fire, and water. Da Nang hugs the coast and is home to one of Vietnam’s most picturesque beaches, a white sandy 21 mile stretch of beach nick-named China Beach by the American troops. Today it goes by Da Nang Beach or Non Nuoc Beach or My Khe Beach. High end resorts have sprouted up along the shore as well as spas, restaurants and golf courses. Very little is left to remind one of the days this beach was used for R & R for the troops.

Our destination is the lovely city of Hoi An. We stayed at Anantara resort, right on the river. We booked riverview rooms and they were exquisite. We all made afternoon plans…Heidi, Nanci and Gregg wanted massages, Jamie chose to lay by the pool, and I went exploring.

Anantara Resort

Hoi An
Hoi An is simply a jewel. A UNESCO World Heritage Site, this ancient city is so well preserved. The “old part” of town is free of cars and scooters, walking and biking only. Tailor shops are EVERYWHERE. Heidi was measured for a dress in the morning and it was done that evening. They are masters at sewing. I do believe Heidi came away with several skirts, some funky pants, and the dress. Jamie chose jewelry and tops. I got art work. And we all selected several silk lanterns. Hoi An is famous for their beautifully crafted bamboo and silk lanterns. Shops are everywhere and the colors mind boggling. We actually had to purchase another suitcase to bring them home. Great places to eat. Art galleries. Museums. A vibrant farmers market. A jewel of a city.

Faces of Hoi An

Lanterns

The Market

Free Hoi An bicycle tour
Jamie stayed by the pool but Heidi, Gregg, Nanci and myself signed up for a free bicycle tour of nearby Kim Bong Island. Led by college students trying to perfect their English, the tour gave us a chance to see some local life. Hanh was our guide, a 21 year old student majoring in English. She was adorable, smart, witty, and took her job seriously. She led us through the streets and traffic to the dock and our ferry to the island. Once on the island we stopped at a boat making shop, a wood carving shop, a school, a temple, a noodle making shop, and a home where they make sleeping mats. The trip is advertised as free but we did pay a an amount to present to the people we visited. For all the wonders we found in Hoi An, the reality is it is situated in one of the poorest provinces in the country. Apart from the glamour of the tourism-enriching little town, there is much poverty.

Lantern Festival
We arrived on a full moon so we were able to partake in the lantern lighting festival. You purchase these candles in a basket and set them into the river after making a wish. Very lovely!!

Hoi An Misc.

We all fell in love with Hoi An. One guidebook described Hoi An as “Warm-hearted and welcoming” We couldn’t agree more. Truly a gem!!!!